Considering what I wrote about human genetic predispositions in the previous article, one might conclude that I think male approach to spirituality is inherently better than female and that women are therefore disadvantaged.

What I actually have a problem with is women teaching men their female kind of spirituality, with the end result of men not achieving anything. This female approach to spirituality became so widespread that men are seriously disadvantaged unless they see it for what it is and understand that a masculine approach s not a set of flaws that need to be corrected in order to turn them into a proper version of a human, which just accidentally happens to have ovaries. There’s no inherent problem with either female or male approach to spirituality as long as you have a correct understanding what they are, how they work, what is their realistic purpose, and what’s the realistic chance of success if you apply them with the intended goal of attaining liberation.

The male approach to spirituality is to correctly diagnose the situation, to figure out how it would best be approached, and then to improvise methods in order to achieve the goal.

The female approach to spirituality is to be likable in order to gain favor from the entity in charge, assuming the entity in charge reacts positive to cute and lovable females.

Let’s model the problem first, in two possible ways. First model is impersonal, according to Vedanta. This place is what it is, there’s no-one in charge, there’s no lock on the door, but ignorance, desires and past karma bind souls to this place and the only way out is to gain proper understanding and realization, to shed desires and cultivate detachment, and to patiently work through past karma.

The second model is the common denominator of Christianity and Buddhism. You did something that got you attached to this place. This place is the domain of its King, whom Jesus calls Satan the prince of this world, and Buddha calls him Mara, the lord of illusion and binding. The King is completely immune to empathy, he doesn’t react to any form of manipulation, and he couldn’t care less about females, cute or otherwise. What he cares about is keeping everyone bound to this place in order to achieve his goals, whatever they may be.

Let’s now see how a competent, intelligent male would approach the problem according to both possibilities.

In both cases, he would read all the literature and consult all the experts. According to the available options, he would attempt to source all possible help. He would then assess what has the greatest probability of working, and would try that first, and if it fails, he would reassess and work down the list through other options. There’s essentially no difference in his approach regardless of whether there’s a “boss” at the gates or not. If the problem is impersonal, he will attempt to attain all the spiritual qualities that will liberate him from this mess. If the problem is personal, he will also attempt to attain all the spiritual qualities that will liberate him from this mess, and he will also study possible approaches that will help against the King. If that means accepting Jesus as his savior, he’ll do that. If that means emulating Buddha’s dialogue with Mara, he’ll do that. In any case, his approach will be coherent, practical and appropriate for the circumstances. It might still fail, but you can see how it’s rational and straightforward.

Let’s now see how a woman would approach the problem.

A woman would instinctively assume that she needs to influence the person in charge and that this person would have a known emotional response to her actions. She will first try to make herself look good and acceptable. Then she’ll try to see if she did something wrong and try to fix it so that the person in charge will see that she’s trying to be a good person and she deserves credit for trying. She will either cry and act remorseful, in order to gain sympathy, or she will attempt to be loving and radiant, non-judgmental and sweet. She will read all the spiritual books, with the purpose of making an effect on the person in charge, so that he sees that she’s trying and that her heart is in the right place. She will try to adopt all the recommended modes of action and fit in the group that seems to be spiritual.

If the problem is impersonal, meaning that there’s no gatekeeper and the only thing keeping us in bondage are our personal beliefs and investments of energy, the female approach won’t achieve anything. In case there is a gatekeeper, he is completely impervious to this form of influence and manipulation and will use the energy of all those attempts to keep the person in bondage and illusion. She will be submissive to him and he will accept submission and use it to increase bondage. She will be remorseful and he will use that as admission of guilt which strengthens bondage. She will try to make herself fit into a stereotype or a group, and he will use that to increase bondage.

So in both cases, the female approach to solving the problem, which works for manipulating powerful men into sharing their status, resources and sperm with you, will completely and utterly fail. The male approach, which works for dealing with problems in the real world, which works with actual forces, actual enemies and isn’t a social networking strategy, has a much better chance of working.

However, there’s a way in which the female approach to things might work excellently, and most women who managed to attain a high spiritual status used exactly that method. What a woman has to do is to find a concrete, actual person who is either a God or a yogi, and marry that person. How do you marry a God, well it’s simple, the nuns do it all the time. You just dedicate your entire life and your entire focus to that person that embodies God to you, you contemplate, meditate, feel the sublime spiritual states and qualities of that person and completely absorb them into yourself and model your entire personality around satisfying that person. That’s the natural female instinct, and if they target it right and follow this approach with unyielding tenacity that females genetically possess and use when they want to get something of supreme value, their approach has an incredibly high chance of producing high states of consciousness in which they can receive actual Divine guidance and instructions, which they can follow and attain liberation. Of course, they are highly vulnerable to all sorts of deceptions from Satan, so it’s a a weapon that cuts both ways. However, this form of bhakti-yoga and puja is actually designed to utilize all the female instincts and genetic makeup and that’s the primary technique of yoga a woman should use. For men, such techniques are not nearly as appropriate, and things that emulate a crisis, combat and admiration of a great, noble personality full of virtues, that would work better. For men, ishta devata is someone you emulate. For women, ishta devata is someone you surrender to and who becomes your spiritual husband. It’s a gender thing – men want to do great things, and women want to fuck men who are doing great things, and to obey them diligently.

So that’s all there is to it. Both male and female approach work if you know what they are, who you are, what you want to achieve and what will be the easiest way of doing it, for you personally. But there’s no one single method that always works, just as there is no one superior gender. However, the sure way to mess things up for yourself is to try to do things in a way that is appropriate for the opposite genetic and spiritual makeup.

But let me make this clear: all of this makes sense and works only in the initial phase of spiritual work, before you attain actual spiritual guidance and before you have to actually do things. When you receive guidance and make progress on your path, the way you need to approach things is not gender-specific, it is completely and utterly identical to the male approach, because you’re dealing with real world problems and not social networking problems. If you need to practice vipassana or the inner space technique, it doesn’t mean anything whether you’re male or female, everything you need to do is identical. If you need to have a verbal duel with Sanat Kumara, it doesn’t mean absolutely anything whether you’re male or female. Both Romana and Biljana had such duels with him, and they did it in the most male way possible; Romana gave him a retort worthy of Buddha (“All sins belong to you”), and Biljana immediately remembered one of my personal idiosyncratic weapons and struck him with it, to great effect.

So yes, female stuff is all nice and cute and cuddly, but if you’re a woman and you need to kill some shit, you need a male weapon, like a sniper rifle or an RPG. You don’t want a female weapon, like high heels or a mini skirt. 🙂