I keep reading stupid nonsense online and hearing feedback to my articles that characters, especially women, are unrealistically smart and pure.
I get where people are coming from. I read all those “red pill” texts based on poorly understood evolutionary biology and psychology. I watched youtube videos where they invite strippers, online prostitutes and other horrible female characters and they are all idiots.
However, I also watch videos by female astrophysicists and mathematicians. If you think women can’t be that smart, you’ve been hanging out with the wrong crowd. There’s that idea in the “red pill” or “manosphere” circles, that women are emotional, and men are rational, that men base their decisions on facts and evidence, while women base their decisions on feelings.
So, let me make this absolutely clear. This is complete nonsense. Women are intellectually almost completely equal to men. By almost completely I mean that some men, like, a micro-percentage, will be smarter than all women. However, if you’re not Einstein, Bohr, Heisenberg, Landau or Feynman, there’s a woman out there who earns money by giving instructions to men smarter than you in order for them to figure out stuff that’s just too hard for them. And she’s a soft, feminine, romantic creature who likes to feel pretty.
The reason why men underestimate women’s brains is because they think that assertiveness and dominance, and mental ability are the same thing. They are not. In fact, they are not even related; they are different like taste and colour. So, when they see a female ballet group, they tend to make certain conclusions that are completely wrong, because one of those women is an organic chemist, a PhD who works at a scientific institute. Another is an architect. The third is a doctor, fourth is a lawyer. And they are all soft, pretty, gentle creatures in frilly outfits, and they like nice shoes and hand bags. And all are likely smarter than literally every single man who thinks women are emotional and men are rational.
The idea that women are more emotional and men are more rational is complete nonsense. What’s actually different is that women are more like children in a sense that they can’t hide their emotions. It’s because their emotions are extremely socially significant and when they are visible, people know what’s going on and will assist them. Men have a certain part of the brain developed after puberty that makes them more capable of hiding their emotions and functioning despite them. It’s an evolutionary thing. However, men and women have equally rich, diverse and sophisticated emotional lives. Men who say they don’t either lie or are stunted idiots. It’s just that with women, you can see it on their faces and bodies. With men, it’s much harder to read. Also, women are incredibly smart; well, at least women I tend to hang out with are. It’s just that women’s intellect is as easy to underestimate as men’s emotional richness; in both cases, the outward appearance masks it. It’s easy to look at a serious stoic guy and think he’s not emotional, and it’s easy to see a girly girl smiling and being cute and underestimate her intellect. She might be an excellent mathematician, a doctor or an astrophysicist, for all you know. Looking serious and focused is an act. It’s something you can learn even if you’re a dumb sack of shit. Just look at the politicians. On the other hand, having your system full of female hormones that make you soft, gentle and cute tells you absolutely nothing about the intellectual capacity of the brain in that soft, beautiful and gentle body. She might be dumb as a brick, or she might be earning money by giving lessons in college mathematics.
Also, men often say that women are difficult to understand. That’s completely wrong. In fact, women are extremely easy to understand. Just imagine yourself being one. You have the same mind, same intellectual power, same emotions, it’s just that your body is soft, vulnerable, feminine, and you can control your emotional displays about as well as you could when you were ten years old, meaning you break into tears when something hurts. You also have a different energy, slightly different desires. You are the same person you are now; lost, confused, trying to figure yourself out, trying to feel loved, respected, powerful, successful, admired. You learn things because you desire knowledge, you desire to be more than you are, to know more, to see things. The difference is, you are looking for a boss. You’re looking for someone to admire, someone who will be a figure of authority – someone wise, kind, powerful, gentle, who will guide you through your confusion, lead you towards the right goal in the right way, keep you safe from harm while exposing you to new and great things, and bring your soul back to God, safe, pure and unharmed.
Of course you don’t know all this intellectually. Nobody knows anything intellectually, people are just ignorant and are trying to wing it blindly through life, occasionally crashing hard and trying to pick themselves up again; however, men are forced to figure things out themselves, and they need a woman who will stand by them while they do it and make them feel it’s all worth it – they need to feel needed, respected, acknowledged and seen. Women need almost the same things; they just need a man to break the ice and protect them when they are vulnerable. A frighteningly smart woman will still need a man who will help her cut through the noise, filter out the confusion and find them both a path. She needs to know that someone is at the wheel when she’s distraught, or nine months pregnant, giving birth or nursing. She knows instinctively there will be times she’s down for the count, and she needs you to keep everything running and keep her safe while that’s happening. She knows she’ll be confused and needs you to have perspective, make a choice and get them safely out.
That’s all there is to it, really. Regarding the other thing men keep talking about, how easy it is for women to get men, and how hard it is for men to get women, that’s all nonsense. It’s easy for women to get all the wrong men – those who just want to use them for sex because they are attracted, those who don’t see them as a person, those who don’t actually care for who she is, just what they can get from her. Those who are weak and want her to be their mommy, adding to their burdens in life instead of making it easier. Women are in the same position as those rare, super wealthy or otherwise desirable men, who are constantly annoyed by women hitting on them because they don’t see them as a person, but they see them as a source of things they can get from him, or they otherwise have nothing substantial to offer him. Basically, men and women are in identical situation; it just looks different. It looks like a woman has all the choice in the world, but it’s mostly of all the wrong things. A man looks like he has no choice, but his probability of getting just the right girl is identical to a woman’s probability of getting just the right man. It’s just that women have noise where men have silence, and it appears different. A woman’s abundance of wrong choices is merely abundance of opportunity to ruin her life by choosing a wrong man, or dick surfing until she turns into a messed-up free prostitute. A man’s lack of choice just means he needs to work on becoming a person some wonderful woman is praying for.
It’s all very easy to figure out. You just need to put yourself in other person’s skin and see what it feels like, instead of trivialising people. Of course I write smart, emotionally rich female characters – I actually know and understand real, smart women. I know what makes them tick, how their minds and emotions work, what their souls look like when stripped of appearances. It’s actually my job to know.